A story about how you should handle children's fears and phobias

The first few years of a child’s life is crucial to the person they will become. When they have fears or phobias, it is important that they are understood and handled the correct way. If not handled properly, that could become lifelong trauma…

I had a dream in which I had to do this. The dream has many other topics in it, but I thought this was the most important message or meaning to extract from the dream. Listen to me talking through the story in the dream and what I think each part means or why I dreamt that.

I have many interesting dreams, which is why I started this project

Hi, everyone. Welcome to The Dreamverse where I just tell funny stories about the dreams that I have. My dreams are sometimes very interesting, and I think they're very worthwhile to actually tell. So if you enjoy fascinating, sometimes wholesome, sometimes earth shattering stories, stick around. This one is quite wholesome

We’re in a park / restaurant and our dog runs away

It starts off with me and my family, even my grandparents, being in this park-like setting. It's this kind of town area where there are buildings, restaurants and people sitting there. But we're on the grass hill on the other side. Just relaxing, having a good time. And our dog is off her leash and she's not great with those kinds of things, so she runs away.

The mission to get our dog back

And we run after her and I tell my family to stop running after her. Let just one person do that. Otherwise, she'll just keep running and running and running. She'll think it's a game and that she is supposed to keep running. They didn't listen. They just kept running. And it just kept getting harder to catch her.

Okay and I don't know if I should mention this, but because this is a restaurant area and all of us were eating and they were just running because of that, they threw up... Yeah, I'm not going to say anything else. They didn't want to listen to me. That is the consequences of their actions. They ran; they got the consequences.

I try to avoid people who want to pet our dog

So, long story short, I got our dog. I took her all the way back through all these people where we were walking but as I was weaving through all these restaurants that were outside, I had to tell everyone to not touch the dog. They just wanted to keep petting her. And again, your subconscious is weird. And I think because of what happened when they ran with their full stomachs, this vomiting kind of triggered, I don't know... Again, subconscious - things are weird. It triggered this kind of disease that it was spreading or something along those lines. I told everyone not to touch the dog because they would be spreading a disease, kind of like a pandemic.

So clearly, this is not the wholesome part of the dream. I know.

The turning point of the dream

And because dreams are weird, the dream changed at this point. There was kind of a crossroads, one that I took along the way here with all the restaurants, and another one. So I decided to take the other one. Hopefully, it would have less people that were trying to touch my dog. So she turned into a three or four year old kid instead of a dog, okay? And on this road that I was taking, there were fences on both sides of us. It was no longer this restaurant area, but there were fences, and we were kind of on a hill. And the only way to get past here was this jungle gym.

We need to get past a jungle gym, but the child has a big fear

I saw that she was hesitant to go on that because I thought that a three or four year old kid would like to go on the jungle gym. It's a fun obstacle to go over to get to our destination. But no, I instinctively knew that this was somehow traumatic for her. There's something that happened in the past that made her not want to go on the jungle gym. This was the only road, and I couldn't find any alternatives because I totally forgot about the other side of the crossroads. This was where we were now. There was no other way to get past. So instead of going over this jungle gym, I thought of finding a gap in the fence or because the fence was rather low, and we were on a hill jumping over the fence and then rolling down the hill.

How to handle someone’s trauma triggers

And the thing is, I was just trying to do this to comfort this child. I was trying to do what I thought would be most helpful if I was in her situation, because I don't know how she feels about the jungle gym. How scared she really is. Because trauma doesn't have to be this big thing about maybe just going to war. There are lots more things that could be traumatic to you. It's about how your brain perceive the situation. So if this is traumatic to her, I can't force her to do this and relive this awful experience.

What does it mean when there is a scared child in your dream?

And obviously, this was a child in my dream. But I don't think it represented a real child because you can get meanings or messages from your dreams. I don't think this was representing a real child. I think it was more a representation of my own childhood. And trying to comfort my childhood self. Not making her do something against her own will. If you're super scared of something, I won't make you do it.

How to know what your dreams mean

I think this is the interesting part about telling my dreams. Just also not just telling the funny story but explaining the message behind it as well. Because dreams can sometimes be silly and very funny on the surface level. But beneath it, because it is so intertwined with your subconscious, there's a hidden meaning there that you can relate back to your own life. I'll make a whole video about this… you can relate dreams back to your own life and find messages in it to help you in your own life. I can't tell you what your dreams necessarily mean because it's very personal and all about your experience, and nobody knows that better than you.

A novel about how phobias link to death in a previous life (reincarnation)

And as I'm telling you this, it kind of reminds me of a novel I read. It's called The Forgetting Time. I'm not going to spoil most of it, but from the back of the book, you can infer that it's about reincarnation. I'm not going to talk about my personal views on that, but this boy is super afraid of water. His mom struggles to bathe him because he's just so afraid of it. But in his previous life, again, I'm not going to spoil it, but it's suspected that he died by drowning. Remember, this is just a fictional book. They theorize that he had this fear, this phobia of water because of how he died in his previous life. So, yeah, I don't know. It has nothing to do with this dream except that it reminded me of fears and phobias and not forcing your child to do something that they're super scared of.

A personal story about falling off a jungle gym

The only thing I can link with my own childhood with a jungle gym is when I was six years old, I was playing on the jungle gym and there was this bee. At that point, I had never gotten stung by a bee, ever. And I thought at that moment it was going to sting me. So I was doing everything in my power to get away from it. I was so scared. I went to the other side where there was a slide, but there were boys playing on that. And I told them to "go down. Just go down, slide down. I want to get down." They didn't listen to me. So my only other way to escape the bee was to go down the ladder. And because I was so terrified, I was doing it as fast as possible. And as I was doing that, my hand slipped and I fell off the jungle gym.

Relating dreams to your real life experience

Now, I never had a phobia of jungle gyms. I was still scared of bees, kind of. See, dreams aren't that literal. I'm not scared of jungle gyms. It doesn't represent my childhood in that way. But it maybe still has something to do with needing to comfort my childhood self. Just maybe not with a jungle gym. I don't know.

You should respect a child’s fears and phobias even if you don’t understand them

I just thought that it was quite wholesome, this message of respecting a child's fear and understanding that it is legitimate, even if you don't understand it. I just thought I wanted to share that with you. I'm going to make that video about messages and dreams and it linking to your subconscious very soon. So stay tuned for that.

Bye and see you next time.